Welcome to She Makes The Rules!

She Makes the Rules website is completely owned and run by real women. It was designed for women who are interested in learning how to embrace their inner bossiness! And for the men who accept us for who we are and support us in this process.

She Makes the Rules is intended to be about real life daily living when we accept who we are and how powerful we women can be. Some of us are good leaders and caretakers of our families, and we do MAKE THE RULES in our households. (Where else does men sleeping on the couch or being in the dog house come from?) After trying hard for many years to fit into the old style of family life, Debbie (aka QueenBee) realized that she wasn't being true to who she really is. In an effort to get her hard earned lessons about personal happiness and self acceptance out to other women, this website was created.

What Female Led stands for is that we're bossy chicks (at least some of the time) and acknowledge it. We are regular every day women who have realized we're never going to be the 'little woman' our Mothers quite often were. In this day and age, more and more women are taking on demanding careers and raising a family. This requires us to take the initiative and make plans for our household. Who is doing what, going where and when. Yes, we are typical Moms too!

This website is simply about accepting that we can be bossy and that sometimes we like things our way. This does not make us weird or abnormal. We have spent a lot of time gathering interesting and informative information so you can choose your own path. Check out the information below to determine if our goals match yours.

She Makes the Rules is a discussion site. We ponder why we're made the way we are, society's rules we grew up with (being the good girl), with other strong women and the men who appreciate us. As most of us are in relationships, we also discuss how being a bossy woman impacts our relationships, not only between men and women, but with the rest of our family and even in our work environments. We are a website owned and run by real women with real lives. We are exactly who we say we are! Do not assume otherwise. We have a lot of men who assume incorrectly because of our name. To that end here is some information for you:

To protect confidentiality, we do require that all registered members be 18 years of age or older.

Questions for Women

Are you in the right place?

If you can answer any of these questions with a 'yes', then you are in the right place!

• Are you making decisions for your family? Or at work?
• Are you the one people turn to in a crisis?
• Are you the 'rock' your family depends on?
• Are you the one who makes the plans for your family?
• At work are you the woman with all the answers?
• Has your boyfriend/husband approached you with the idea of taking more control? (And maybe you even think he's crazy, but you're willing to at least look into it?)
• Has anyone ever referred to you as an 'in charge woman', 'exceptionally confident', 'very clear in asking for what you need', or feels that you have that potential?
• Do you plan events for your friends and family?

If you have any of the above traits, you are a strong woman who knows how to lead.

It doesn't make us less feminine to acknowledge that we are good at running things, or that we LIKE it when people do what we've asked of them. Nor do you have to be good at running everything to be a woman who has the ability and desire to lead.

If you look up 'Female-Led-Relationships' on-line, there are a variety of terms used to classify strong women. Most of these we do not find appealing or particularly appropriate, as we really are 'normal' every day women! Some of these terms you may have heard of: 'Female Dominants, FemDom's (FemDomme) and/or Controlling Women'. We don't particularly like these terms. They aren't particularly flattering, nor have these terms changed in years, but they are prevalent in the information currently on-line. We ARE women who happen to be strong or even bossy, when we need and/or want to be.

You may not think any of these terms identify you, but if you think about your daily life and relationships, you may begin to see a pattern. You're the one making an awful lot of decisions! Some strong women are true leaders and are great in business management. Others don't like the main leadership role, but are great support staff and see that daily business and life within their realm (family/home) runs smoothly.

Strong women who lead are everywhere. We can celebrate that we're living in a time where women are finally coming into their own in almost every way! When it comes to relationships, some of us are better at leading or being in charge. Not necessarily in every area of the relationship, but certainly in the places we can make a difference.

Being 'in charge' doesn't mean that we have to do all of the work either, or always be "The Boss". Think of how often you want your Sweetie to simply do the dinner dishes. If you choose to, you can have the power to say 'Do it" and he'll respond. Like all relationships it takes time to work out the details. The benefits can include increased intimacy, communication and fun.

If you view a relationship as consisting of two people who are emotionally close, the phrase that describes the strong woman's power in this arrangement is "I have a vote and a half!"

Come and join us! Find out why we're so excited about our life, friendships and personal relationships! We are just like you. We've probably had the same considerations, thoughts and feelings that you have! Here is your chance to embrace your "inner bossiness" and your relationship.

One of the key differences of She Makes the Rules is that we are strong women, some of whom are in or are looking for a relationship. We value being in a relationship in which our personal strength is accepted, and our men adore us for it.

Questions for Men

There are plenty of men who are so comfortable in their self confidence that being around or with a strong woman is of no threat. There are also men who are drawn to strong or bossy women, and some of these use the term 'submissive' . Then other men are highly offended by the idea that they are less than a "Man's Man" and just like to please their partner.

How do you know if you're in the right place at She Makes The Rules? Here are some questions to ask yourself:

• Do you simply like being around women who are confident?
• Is your wife/girlfriend a strong woman that you have confidence in? Are you wanting to support her in embracing her inner bossiness and building self confidence?
• Are you happy when you please the woman you love?
• Does it feel good when you're taking care of others you care for?
• Do you want to take a mental break from being in charge when you are at home?
• Are you honest enough to know that a lot of women rule the roost in a nice way?
• At times is it easier when a woman simply TELLS you what she really wants you to do? (No more guessing!)

If any of these questions strike a chord within you, then yes, you very well could be in the right place, but please keep reading.

She Makes The Rules focuses on women embracing their inner bossiness and the men who love them.

She Makes The Rules is a website OWNED and RUN by real every day women. In our daily lives we are professionals who have families and obligations. We are the real women who live Female Led Relationships (FLRs) on a daily basis.

If you want to understand real women who have come to understand their dominant (aka bossy or strong) natures, AND you are willing to obey our rules of behavior (respecting women and having good manners!) in the forums (and in contacting women) then this IS the place for you!

We also provide a "Men Only" section so that you may share and get feedback from other men who live with bossy/strong women.

She Makes The Rules is interested in showing you how to attract and keep a true 'normal' every day 'Dominant Woman'. If you're already partnered, the forums allow you to discover how strong women think and react in a Female Led relationship.

We LOVE it when your partner comes with you and we can answer her questions too! This is a REAL place for women, not just those who wish Female Led Relationships! Or Wife Led Relationship, or even Woman Led.. whatever your terminology is, it covers the same area. We encourage women to simply understand how knowing ourselves better and accepting what is naturally in us can make our world a better place!

She Makes the Rules is free to join. We do ask that you contribute after 30 days if you find the site valuable to you. SMTR does not choose to allow ads as we cannot control the quality of what our members would be viewing. However, you are not required to contribute and can continue to utilize our forums for free, as long as you take the time to read our rules and follow them. (Things like no spamming, flaming, etc.)